Lack of Consideration for Others

One of the pre-dispositions of a Bipolar ManChild, is the complete lack of consideration for others.

I mean REALLY!!!  WHO DOES THINGS LIKE THIS?...

You have just drifted of into a nice slumber 

 

When the next thing you know... you are suddenly awakened by someone yelling in your face

                                                         only to ask "are you sleeping".
                                                                  WHO DOES THIS?

OR---

The ManChild makes arrangements to have a dinner party

we are all sitting around the table enjoying some good food, drink and conversation ... when all of a sudden, the ManChild removes himself from the table, goes into the other room that has the television on, picks up the phone and makes a call to his mother!

                                                                    WHO DOES THIS?


OR---

You make the repeated mistake of asking the ManChild to mail the mail, fully expecting that he would do it because he said he would

Only to discover it later in one of his many piles!

 

 WHO DOES THIS?

 

The Bipolar ManChild has a total lack of consideration for others.

 

The Effects on Family

What the bipolar manchild brain

cannot understand, are the effects that they have on everyone around them.

When they are manic, they are so self absorbed in euphoria, that they don't care about anyone but themself.  This is exaggerated if they go off their meds, exacerbating life for those near him.

 

So how do you continue to love a manchild with Bipolar?

 

Triggers

I have recently discovered why my life is so filled with anger and resentment.

Because living with a ManChild... especially one with Bipolar...

          with all their misconstrued perceptions, the betrayal and lies...
 
               geez... it's no wonder this is what triggers my tempter! 

                      Then, multiply it by two in the house!

                   This has got to be the hardest way to live EVER!!!

The Little Red Hen

Going back to a very basic concept of life, I am reminded of the book red to me in kindergarden called "The Little Red Hen". 

This is a story about a little red hen who plows the field, plants the seeds, grows the wheat, harvest the wheat, makes the flour, and bakes the bread.  At each step she would ask a duck, goose, cat and pig for help, yet she got none.  But, when the bread is done, they all wanted to reap the rewards and eat the bread. 

This basic concept is one that the bipolar ManChild can't seem to grasp.  They want to be like the duck, goose, cat and pig.  Lazy, do nothing to help, yet they want to enjoy all the rewards.

I have news for you ManChild -- that is NOT how life works!~  Go back and read the book.

Quacks Like a Duck

With the healthy human brain, one tends to think... "if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck... it probably is a duck"!

 

Unfortunately, this is not the case with a bipolar brain.  Especially the engineering bipolar brain.

The proposed project.  To cover the roof.

The ManChild's thought process: 

"I've been trying to decide how to remove the unused smoke stack in the roof... it looks like one has to destroy the connection to do it... so I am going to let you look at it before I do anything on it."

 

 

The response... I thought you were just going to cover the roof?!!

Nobody said anything about removing the unused smoke stack. 

 If you have to destroy it to remove it, then don't do it. 

Just cover the roof!

DUH!!!

 

 

The Caregivers Worries

The one thing that I have noticed with a bipolar ManChild, is the main differences with the manic vs depression mood swings.

When the ManChild is depressed, he is pretty much easy going, non-argumentative, laid-back with a k-sir-rah attitude (when taking the proper doses of meds that is).  Otherwise, he would be sleeping most of the time and pretty much non-existing.


But when the ManChild is manic, he becomes a major know-it-all, full of over zealous confidence, argues about everything, you can't have a conversation with them because they never let you finish your sentences because they anticipate what you are going to say (basically they can have a conversation all by themselves!) and just generally very difficult to live with and be around. (Thank God for meds that helps to ease some of this when taken properly).

Conclusion for the caregiver... Turn your worries and concerns into prayers!!!  Because that is basically all you have left!!!

With the Return of MANIA

With a Bipolar ManChild, the return of mania is the most difficult to live with.

 

It involves:

 

1. The constant interruption, always anticipating what you are going to say before you even say it!

2. The poor lack of judgment and easily swayed by get-rich-schemes.

3. The excess energy with no ambition to do anything that is important, but only to have fun.

4. The lack of sleep. Going from 8-9 hours of sleep per night, to 4-5. Not to mention, keeping you from getting your sleep too!

5. Racing around to do everything, but getting nothing done.

6. Wanting to befriend anyone and everyone, not realizing they may not want anything to do with him.

7. Wanting to spend money he doesn’t have.

8. Becomes a major know-it-all.

9. Thinks very highly of himself. Super man with super ego.

10. Over confident, with poor lack of judgment.

11. Indecisive. They want, want, want, but can't make a decision. Also known as Double-Minded.

12. Makes promises they never have any intention of keeping.

 

LIAR!

The Bipolar ManChild has no problem at all with being deceitful.  In fact, I believe they think they are soooooo smart, that they can actually get away with it and then, act like they are surprised when they are caught and confronted.

What's Worse than a ManChild???

What's Worse than a ManChild....???
         
                                                   ...A Bipolar ManChild!!!
 

 

 

ManChilds are weak

The trouble with the ManChild is that they are weak when it comes to parenting.  They cannot stand up to a strong teen for fear they may get hurt.  Or, they cannot stand up to the weak teen when they bat their eyes in despair for they feel to sorry for them.

In conclusion, don't marry a ManChild if you want strong children that don't have a failure to launch!  Your ManChild will not be a parent partner for he will be no help to you at all!!  Your child will manipulate to the fullest and they won't grow up themselves.